Sex In Your Dreams – Understanding Erotic Lucid Dreaming

Many people like to explore their sexuality through their dreams. In today’s society, lucid erotic dreaming is included among the hottest trends. Apparently, there are a lot of different products, guides, books and meditation CDs available in the market that can teach you how to experience sex in your dreams.

In order to really master and perfect the art of erotic dreams you need to know more about this aspect of life.

The Possibility Of Having Intercourse With The Person You Fantasize

It is most possible to learn to lucid dream if your sole intention is to experience a deep form of intimacy with the person whom you ultimately fantasize about. Sex may happen in your dreams, but it will feel so real. Whatever you feel while dreaming are as real as the feelings you have experienced in the real world. This is because all sensations you have felt while living in the real world will serve as memories you will draw from when you lucid dream.

Real Dream Orgasms

Dreaming about sex can give you real orgasms too. In fact, it was even documented that dream orgasms are like real-like climaxes that happen with muscular responses, fast rate of heart beat and change in the vascular tissues. It is like wet dreams experienced by young boys who actually ejaculate in bed because of what they experienced in their reverie.

Erotically Charged Dreams

REM or Rapid Eye Movement sleep is very much biological in nature. Many things happen and occur while a person is in REM sleep; including sensual bodily changes and reactions. Men may have erections while women may have engorgement of their private areas. Such are all normal during sleep and dreams. In lucid dreaming, you are consciously aware of the arousal your body experienced physiologically. The same reactions can also be experienced when you lucid dream about flying.

What You Can Do To Have Sex Dreams

Fantasize. Before you go to sleep, you need to fantasize about the person you really like. You are most likely to have one or two fantasies that you are not able to realize or even share with other people. Such fantasies are ideal to be used when you want to dream of sex.

Watch An Adult Movie. Another way that can condition your mind for an erotically charged dream is by watching an adult film before you sleep. If fantasizing seems a bit difficult, then you can always play some titillating films on your DVD player. Make sure you can clearly hear the moaning sounds made in the movie as these will serve as subliminal messages for triggering your mind to dream about intercourse.

Meditate. When you meditate, you need to ease your mind from any worries and anxieties. The mind should be focused only on having intercourse. Only fantasies should fill up your thoughts; such as your past intimate experiences and also the best bed experience you had.

Pleasure Yourself Prior To Sleep. Right after you have watched an adult film, you feel probably in a hot mood to touch yourself. Do not hesitate to do so and feel free to experience solo pleasure. Not only will this release the heat building up inside your body; it will also condition your mind for an erotic dream.

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Sex Advice – Improve Your Sex Life Like an Olympic Athlete

Sex is not always a sport and, although sex games and sex positions abound, it should never be a competition. However, if you want to become a gold medalist in bed, you can’t expect to sit back and hope that the best sex of your life descends on you by magic or is somehow passed down through the genes of your ancestors. You have to train.

Superstar coaches of practically every sport on the planet train their aspiring athletes with the same basic principle. No matter what the sport, competition, or activity, the best training always consists of two essential parts: mental and physical. Training must be 50% mental and 50% physical.

The physical 50% is the kind everyone who has ever watched a sports movie is all too familiar with. In sports, it involves those ten-mile hikes through the mud in the rain at 5 AM. It involves charging through barriers made of foam, stepping through gauntlets made of tires, and passing the ball back and forth until it becomes second nature.

In the arena of adult sex, the physical 50% means that you need to get as much practice as you possibly can. Know your own body like… the back of your hand. Get to know the body or bodies of your spouse, partner, or friends with benefits until you can trace them in your sleep. Don’t expect to have mind-blowing sex every time right away. Expect only to practice.

But just like in any sport, the physical 50% is not enough.

For athletes, the mental 50% involves both watching other professionals perform the right way the actions they hope to excel at and also playing back the tapes of their own performances in order to spot their own weak areas. The mental 50% is all about studying, immersing their minds in the sport, activity, or action so much so that when they get on the field, their bodies automatically follow suit.

In sex, the mental 50% can be accomplished in a number of ways.

Reading is one of the easiest ways to train your mind in the art of sex. Sex advice is readily available in large and free quantities online, so find a sex blog or sex advice portal that you love and visit it often.

Playing the tapes back is another great way to get in the mental 50%, so don’t be ashamed to find some tasteful erotica and take notes. If your partners or friends with benefits are adventurous enough, you may find it equal parts enjoyable and educational to film yourselves in various states of undress performing various sex positions and sexual acts. When you watch yourselves later, you can highlight the things you did that really made your partner scream as well as make a mental note of the things they did that sent shivers through your spine.

As you sculpt your body and your mind for the best sex of your life, don’t forget what sex is essentially all about – having fun and connecting with your partner. In sex and sports alike, perfection is never guaranteed, only improvement.

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5 Foreplay Tips That Will Have Her Begging For Sex

There is no beating around the bush on this one foreplay is huge for women! Women are very emotional creatures and it helps them feel sexy and wanted by you. Unlike men women take some time to get “warmed up” for sexual intercourse. If you just jump right into sex without foreplay it can make a woman feel like nothing more than a device for getting you off, and no one wants to feel like that.

Now every woman will be different as to what she best responds to, but these foreplay tips I’m about to share with you are sure to have most women feeling totally satisfied. Feel free to add in any of your own touches to any of these tips.

Tip 1 – Foreplay doesn’t only have to take place in the bedroom. In fact it’s about 100 times more effective if you start several hours before you plan on having sex.

Try leaving her dirty love notes around the house, send her dirty text messages through out the day. All of this kind of stuff will drive her crazy.

Tip 2 – Give her a bath

Nothing works better to take her mind off of all the crazy things that happened during her day then a nice warm relaxing bath given by her man.

Make sure and set the mood with candles, some sexy music and a glass of wine. You can also combo a neck and back massage while she’s in the tub or even if your bath is big enough you can get in too.

Tip 3 – Public displays of affection

When you’re out in public together kiss her passionately, brush up against her breasts and touch her butt. All of these subtle little things will build up on top of each other and begin to drive her wild.

Tip 4 – Watch an adult movie

Pornography is not only a turn on for men but also for women. Put on a sexy adult movie and I think you’ll like where it goes from there.

Tip 5 – Talk dirty to her

You should be using dirty talk in all of the previous tips. Women love talking dirty but you need to be the one to initiate it. You won’t believe some of the things that will come out of her mouth once she knows it’s okay.

When you first start out with dirty talk go slow. If you’ve never talked dirty to her before don’t just blurt out the craziest thing you can think of, work up to it.

All of these foreplay tips should really help get any woman in the mood but that’s only half the battle. Now you have to perform physically and If you don’t know how to please her physically all of the foreplay will be for nothing.

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Let’s Talk About Sex: Reflections on Sexuality Education in the US

I’ve often heard it said that there are only two things in life that are certain; death and taxes. In my life, I’ve had two more revelations. First, change is inevitable. Secondly, if we pay close attention we always find reason to be hopeful, inspiration leading to the next right step and validation that we are living on purpose and doing what we are here to do.

Last night, while watching the movie, Let’s Talk About Sex, I got exactly what I needed. I love when that happens! I woke up grateful, inspired and energetic at a time when I could very easily be discouraged and frustrated.

Before I get too far into this article, let me tell you where I’m coming from. For the past ten years, I’ve been teaching comprehensive sexuality education programs starting in elementary school and continuing into young adulthood. I work with parents to help them better understand teen development and behavior and improve communication with their kids about sexuality and other challenging topics.

I give this movie two thumbs up. I agree with Hugh Jackman, “Whether you have children, teach children or are around children at all… this movie is a must see.” It clearly outlines some key issues that need to be addressed if we are to promote healthy attitudes towards sexuality while reducing teen and unintended pregnancy in the US.

The movie highlights the following issues:

~The United States has the highest teen pregnancy rate in all the developed countries.

~Our attitudes towards teen sexuality in the US are very different than in other developed countries.

~Sexuality is a huge marketing tool; used to sell lots of things in our country and in all types of media. The reality is that sex sells product.

~ Humans are sexual beings. We are all here because an egg met a sperm. Period.

~ Eighty-five percent of adults in the United States support comprehensive sexuality education for our youth. Science clearly proves that it works. And we are not doing it.

~ Religion poses a major barrier in the US to the delivery of what we know to be effective; namely comprehensive sexuality education. At the same time, religious leaders and organizations can play a huge role in providing new solutions to teen pregnancy.

~ Even when teens have honest, open relationships with their parents, most teens aren’t honest with their parents about their sexual activity.

This movie clearly outlines the most pressing issues we are facing in reducing teen pregnancy in the US. It reminds me why I am so passionate about my work and clarifies what we can together to help prevent us from losing more ground.

It is with that in mind that I reflect and share my thoughts about Let’s Talk About Sex.

As an educated woman and health professional, I find it astounding that the US has the highest teen pregnancy rate in all the developed countries. We know what works. We need to be doing it. Now.

I’m amazed that our advertising and media campaigns use sex to sell everything from lipstick to laptops; yet we live in a society where we struggle to providing our kids with accurate information about how their own bodies work and why.

It is ridiculous that 85 percent of US adults in our population support comprehensive sexuality education for our kids, yet we are losing ground on this issue because a small percentage of very verbal and powerful individuals and organizations keep fighting against what we know works, and in fact saves our government billions of dollars every year.

As all this is happening teenagers are continuing to engage in sexual behavior, are naturally curious about sex and/or thinking about sex and are afraid or embarrassed to talk about it openly to the people closest to them.

I spend a significant amount of my time helping teens reconcile the guilt they feel for not being able to talk with their parents about what they’re really thinking, what they’re really curious about and what they’re really doing. Their guilt doesn’t stop them from being sexually active. What they really want is to be able to tell their parents the truth about what they are choosing and why. Some choose to have the conversation. Some choose to wait to talk with them. Often we practice how to initiate the conversation. Some state that they simply can’t for fear their parents will disown them for going against family values.

Perhaps the most important issue of all, as I see it, that seems to beg for so much more attention than we have the time or funding to really address appropriately, but is perhaps the most important issue of all… love, healthy communication and relationship skills. How great would it be to provide a consistent forum and presence to allow kids to get support to help them understand and process all that’s happening to them physically and emotionally and learn how to grow through it with a great understanding of themselves and others as well as an appreciation for the miracle that sexuality is and a foundation for healthy respect and connectedness on all levels.

Lately, I’ve been struggling to identify new funding sources to support this important work that is in jeopardy. My clinic and outreach program is in NH. We have one of the very lowest teen pregnancy rates in the US. We use strategies that are proven effective and endorsed by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy and base all our programs on a research-based asset development framework developed by the Search Institute called the 40 Developmental Assets. Rather than having our funding, we should be used as a model for the parts of our country where the teen pregnancy rates are high.

Let’s Talk About Sex did a great job of motivating viewers to take action toward being a part of the solution! As the credits played, I began brainstorming a list of action steps we can take to spread the word and increase the frequency, reach and scope of conversations that need to happen to make the US shift toward better serving our future generation.

Teens in the US need your support. It’s not enough to say you support comprehensive sexuality education. It time to be taking action to be sure your kids are getting it! I suggest the following action steps:

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